After watching the Heat lose last night I had to address something that was on my mind after the game. Living up to expectations! We all have them and most times they are given to us by other people. But when are they to high for us to achieve?
I am a Lebron fan and I do admit he really did not show up for these finals, or rather the Lebron we EXPECTED did not show up. He played at terrible game and did not take over when everyone EXPECTED him to. I went on facebook after the game and everyone was bashing the guy with comments like, "so much for being the king, he will never be better than jordan, lebum sucks" and the list goes on and on. This got me thinking about what he has done in his career.
As far as I know he never anointed himself the King, he never said he was better than Jordan, he never bashed Kobe or talked trash about any of his competitors. It seems to me that the MEDIA created all the hype about him, we all called him king, we all made him out to be the second coming of Jordan, we all read the articles about him (that he did not write himself) and his future greatness. WE CREATED HIM! The Media made us believe this and now that the EXPECTATION has not been met WE are all turning out backs on him.
We do this to all the great talents that come around. Society is all Fucked Up (sorry for cursing but it is true). Jay-Z said in a song, "They never really miss you until your dead or your gone" this is so true. Look what the Media and everyone did to Michael Jackson. The poor guy had no life, we build him up to break him down, to build him up again. Now that he is gone everyone talks about his greatness. While he was here you showed him no love and labeled him a freak meanwhile his genius came from his inability to be "normal".
Really people, what do we EXPECT from our top level athletes. If you look at the numbers Lebron has lived up to the hype. Should we question his heart or desire to win, maybe. Or should we be looking at ourselves and the crazy expectations we place on others, meanwhile we are just ordinary people.
I think this is a good time to turn this blog around and lets take a life lesson away from this. Look are your life, have you placed unreal EXPECTATIONS on your kids, relationship, wife, girlfriend, friends, co-workers, boss, job, etc. I know I have done this plenty of times, mostly with relationships. We tend to think we are perfect and look at the flaws of others meanwhile the problem is coming from us. Ghandi once said, "whats missing from situations is what YOU fail to bring". We really need to look at what we are not doing and be very careful of what we expect from others.
People also do this with weight loss and getting in shape. You can't go 10 years without working out and then EXPECT to get in shape in two weeks. You can't go outside and just run 10miles when you haven't run in a long time. Set real goals and follow thru with them. When getting into fitness you can not EXPECT to be in top shape overnight. Everyone wants a quick fix. People who get into fitness or being a trainer and EXPECT to make 100,000 a year their first year are out of their minds. (Sorry this rant will have to be dealt with in another blog)
I also want to be sure and say that this does not mean you should have super low EXPECTATIONS of others or yourself. The point I am trying to make is that we must be realistic on what we expect. I hope this is not taking the wrong way by people. Be sure to comment if you agree or disagree with me.
If the shoe fits wear it and shut the hell up
-FLO
I am a Lebron fan and I do admit he really did not show up for these finals, or rather the Lebron we EXPECTED did not show up. He played at terrible game and did not take over when everyone EXPECTED him to. I went on facebook after the game and everyone was bashing the guy with comments like, "so much for being the king, he will never be better than jordan, lebum sucks" and the list goes on and on. This got me thinking about what he has done in his career.
As far as I know he never anointed himself the King, he never said he was better than Jordan, he never bashed Kobe or talked trash about any of his competitors. It seems to me that the MEDIA created all the hype about him, we all called him king, we all made him out to be the second coming of Jordan, we all read the articles about him (that he did not write himself) and his future greatness. WE CREATED HIM! The Media made us believe this and now that the EXPECTATION has not been met WE are all turning out backs on him.
We do this to all the great talents that come around. Society is all Fucked Up (sorry for cursing but it is true). Jay-Z said in a song, "They never really miss you until your dead or your gone" this is so true. Look what the Media and everyone did to Michael Jackson. The poor guy had no life, we build him up to break him down, to build him up again. Now that he is gone everyone talks about his greatness. While he was here you showed him no love and labeled him a freak meanwhile his genius came from his inability to be "normal".
Really people, what do we EXPECT from our top level athletes. If you look at the numbers Lebron has lived up to the hype. Should we question his heart or desire to win, maybe. Or should we be looking at ourselves and the crazy expectations we place on others, meanwhile we are just ordinary people.
I think this is a good time to turn this blog around and lets take a life lesson away from this. Look are your life, have you placed unreal EXPECTATIONS on your kids, relationship, wife, girlfriend, friends, co-workers, boss, job, etc. I know I have done this plenty of times, mostly with relationships. We tend to think we are perfect and look at the flaws of others meanwhile the problem is coming from us. Ghandi once said, "whats missing from situations is what YOU fail to bring". We really need to look at what we are not doing and be very careful of what we expect from others.
People also do this with weight loss and getting in shape. You can't go 10 years without working out and then EXPECT to get in shape in two weeks. You can't go outside and just run 10miles when you haven't run in a long time. Set real goals and follow thru with them. When getting into fitness you can not EXPECT to be in top shape overnight. Everyone wants a quick fix. People who get into fitness or being a trainer and EXPECT to make 100,000 a year their first year are out of their minds. (Sorry this rant will have to be dealt with in another blog)
I also want to be sure and say that this does not mean you should have super low EXPECTATIONS of others or yourself. The point I am trying to make is that we must be realistic on what we expect. I hope this is not taking the wrong way by people. Be sure to comment if you agree or disagree with me.
If the shoe fits wear it and shut the hell up
-FLO
#cosigneverything
ReplyDeletePeople are moving too quickly to even understand they are acting without integrity ...we put our issues on to others and then expect them to succeed in every area we could not. I agree Chris, take a second to realize the effects of your actions before its too late and you CREATE monsters!
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