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3rd Step to Leadership


            #3  Do not fear NOT being liked

            One of the hardest parts of leadership is making the tough decisions. When you are in charge, you have to make the calls that are best for the team. Unfortunately the calls that are best for the team are not always the ones that are best for certain individuals.

            As a leader you may not always be liked.  This is something I have noticed with parents and children lately. Parents want the kids to like them, so they never make the hard disciplinary decisions. When a leader fears not being liked, it comes across as a sign of weakness. Once you show this weakness your staff, kids, students, etc know that they can manipulate you into doing what they want. Once this shift of power happens you are no longer the “Leader” you are only a “Positional Leader”.

            The difference between a “Leader” and a “Positional Leader” is that one is appointed to you, while the other is earned. The best way I can describe this is by using sports as an example.  The coach of the team is in a “Positional Leader” role. He was given the job as coach so as a player you automatically give him a certain level of respect. He has what is called Positional Power over others. On the other hand a “Leader” earns his role by earning the respect of his peers. This can be considered a more honorable role because those around you have chosen you to lead.  

            Whether your leadership role is earned or given is irrelevant. Your strength as a leader will not be measured by that. It will be measured by the difficulty of decisions you make.  Look back into history and you will see all the great leaders had to make hard decisions. At the time many people did not understand why the greats made these decisions. But now people see that these decisions were the catalysts of change.  Remember, being a leader can be a lonely life at times. When you make the tough calls people will outcast you and play the blame game. Just remember that you are always making the decisions for the greater good and not for the individual. You cannot always do what’s good but you must always do what’s RIGHT!

 

              

-FLO

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