"The remedy for an absence is a presence." -Gary Zukav
We often talk about what needs to be excluded from life. For example, a bad job, bad relationship, fake friends, etc. We also lose things in life as well, such as loved ones, pets, close friends. These situations leave us scarred in one way or another. Both cases deal with creating some void or absence in our life. This blog deals with ways we tend to deal with these losses and how we can do a better job at filling those absences.
The first loss I would like to discuss is the loss of a significant other. We see it all the time, people stay in bad relationships because they fear being alone. They don't know how to fill the space once that person is gone. The abuse they deal with in the relationship is better to them than being alone. Many people in this situation tend to turn towards partying and hooking up as a way to fill the emptiness of being alone. Times like these are when It's perfect to begin to learn more about yourself. Find a hobby, find a passion, find out who you are by yourself. People in relationships tend to become to dependent on the other person for a sense of identity. There will obviously be some crossover however you must never lose a sense of self. So instead of a rebound person I suggest you learn more about you, so that you can be a better you for the next person who will enter your life.
The second loss I would like to discuss is losing a job. This is a big loss especially for those who have a family. There are many stresses that come with losing money. The one thing I ask many people is, what would you do if money was not an option? What's your life's passion? They say if you love what you do you will never work a day in your life. I think this is false, you will always be working but when you find your passion, you will be doing your life's work and not working for a check. A quote by Les Brown comes to mind, "Man was not born to work for a living; but to live his making, and living his making will make his living". The loss of a job can be a blessing in disguise, it can be your opportunity to find what you were born to do. It will be very difficult, trust me, but in the end a void will be filled in you and you will be a better person for it. So, when losing a job, fill the absence with passion.
We will always gain and lose in life. This is all part of our natural balance or ying and yang. There is good and bad in both losing and gaining. For example if you gain a great new job, it will mean losing some time with your friends or family. If you lose a loved one, you can take pleasure in the fact that they have moved on to a better place and gained peace. The point is there is no loss without gain, no absence without presence. Be sure that the presence you add is positive and will add to your life. Don't turn to darkness when you are in the dark; learn to search for light.
-FLO
We often talk about what needs to be excluded from life. For example, a bad job, bad relationship, fake friends, etc. We also lose things in life as well, such as loved ones, pets, close friends. These situations leave us scarred in one way or another. Both cases deal with creating some void or absence in our life. This blog deals with ways we tend to deal with these losses and how we can do a better job at filling those absences.
The first loss I would like to discuss is the loss of a significant other. We see it all the time, people stay in bad relationships because they fear being alone. They don't know how to fill the space once that person is gone. The abuse they deal with in the relationship is better to them than being alone. Many people in this situation tend to turn towards partying and hooking up as a way to fill the emptiness of being alone. Times like these are when It's perfect to begin to learn more about yourself. Find a hobby, find a passion, find out who you are by yourself. People in relationships tend to become to dependent on the other person for a sense of identity. There will obviously be some crossover however you must never lose a sense of self. So instead of a rebound person I suggest you learn more about you, so that you can be a better you for the next person who will enter your life.
The second loss I would like to discuss is losing a job. This is a big loss especially for those who have a family. There are many stresses that come with losing money. The one thing I ask many people is, what would you do if money was not an option? What's your life's passion? They say if you love what you do you will never work a day in your life. I think this is false, you will always be working but when you find your passion, you will be doing your life's work and not working for a check. A quote by Les Brown comes to mind, "Man was not born to work for a living; but to live his making, and living his making will make his living". The loss of a job can be a blessing in disguise, it can be your opportunity to find what you were born to do. It will be very difficult, trust me, but in the end a void will be filled in you and you will be a better person for it. So, when losing a job, fill the absence with passion.
We will always gain and lose in life. This is all part of our natural balance or ying and yang. There is good and bad in both losing and gaining. For example if you gain a great new job, it will mean losing some time with your friends or family. If you lose a loved one, you can take pleasure in the fact that they have moved on to a better place and gained peace. The point is there is no loss without gain, no absence without presence. Be sure that the presence you add is positive and will add to your life. Don't turn to darkness when you are in the dark; learn to search for light.
-FLO
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